Self awareness is a key element in developing intimacy. Ironically, becoming close with another person cannot really be achieved if we are not aware of the emotions, behaviors, and actions that are happening within us. When we are closed to learning about ourselves and how we relate to another, it dramatically hinders how we are with others.
So often in relationships we tend to focus on the other person and how they are relating to us. At times, we even wish that they would change, instead of questioning ourselves and wondering what we can do to help the relationship deepen.
Learn to be curious about yourself! Explore some of these questions:
· How do I react to others?
· How do I communicate with them?
· Am I being authentic?
· Do I trying to please others instead of being honest with my feelings?
· Am I being vulnerable with them?
The way to actually develop closeness to others is to really pay attention to yourself in the relationship. This usually takes a lot of practice in the beginning, since it is not something that we have been taught. But greater self awareness leads to intimacy with others.
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